Battling body image

One sunny afternoon while she was mowing the lawn, Rachel Falzon started to feel nauseous.

“The night before I hadn’t eaten or drank anything,” Falzon said. “I definitely felt super weak, and just drained.”

Falzon said she struggled with body image issues in high school and as a result, began developing unhealthy eating habits, which pushed her self-esteem to an all-time low.

In addition to restricting her eating habits, Falzon said she obsessively weighed herself multiple times each day and would stand in front of a mirror for an excessive amount of time to criticize her own body.

“When I lived with my parents we had mirrors everywhere,” Falzon said. “So I always checked my weight and I checked myself.”

Now a third-year student at the University of Idaho, Falzon said she is in a better place in her relationship with her body, but she still struggles with body image issues every day.

Falzon said she is still sometimes tempted to revert back to the same habits, but her friends have acted as her biggest support system. She said they won’t let her near a scale and keep track of any other potentially unhealthy behaviors that could cause her to relapse.

Falzon is one of thousands of Americans who battle with similar issues on a daily basis.

Campus Dietician Marissa Rudley regularly works with UI students struggling with how they see their bodies. She said negative body image is widespread because American culture makes it socially acceptable, even if it’s not purposeful.

Often times, Rudley said students don’t come to her specifically to deal with their struggles with body image. More commonly, the body image issues become apparent as she is working with a student on something else. It is hard for the majority of people who struggle with body image to realize their struggles at all.

“Someone might visit me wanting assistance with weight loss,” Rudley said. “But we might find that their body image really is at the center of everything.”

Rudley said if body image issues are not dealt with, it can lead to more extreme situations like eating disorders. Counseling and Testing Center Faculty Valerie Hewell was quick to point out that an eating disorder is not the only possible result of body image issues that get out of control.

Hewell said people who suffer from extreme body image issues can also suffer from other issues like body dysmorphic disorder, which is a form of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD).

It is difficult to recognize body image issues for what they are, but it can be even more difficult to realize when struggles with body image turns into a disorder. Both Rudley and Hewell said the biggest difference is that body image issues are a mentality, and that mentality goes into more dangerous territory when it leads to extreme and harmful behavior.

UI second-year Josephine Jones started struggling with her body image during her freshman year of high school. By the time she was 15, Jones said her situation had escalated to anorexia nervosa, though she wasn’t officially diagnosed with the disorder until a year later.

Jones said by the time she was 16, weight loss was an obsession. She was so addicted to becoming thinner her therapist had to finally tell her that if she lost two more pounds she would have about two weeks left to live and would need to be hospitalized. Despite this, Jones said she didn’t care when she heard the news.

“At the time, honestly I didn’t care, which was horrible,” Jones said. “It’s kind of depressing to think of someone so depressed and so into their own illness to not even take a second glance at death.”

A few weeks later, on a trip to Portland, Oregon, Jones finally had a moment of realization that led her to seek help.

While exploring the city, she saw a Voodoo Doughnut employee handing out doughnuts to passing citizens. Even though Jones said she had always wanted to try Voodoo Doughnuts, she passed by the employee at first.

“I walked two steps, and I think about it and I say “˜You know what? Will I ever get a chance to eat one of these again? Probably not,'” Jones said. “So I turned around and I ate it. And then I just started going to town, trying to get better ever since that moment.”

Jones made progress in the following years, though she said it wasn’t easy. She gained most of the weight she lost back. Eventually, however, she relapsed into bulimia her first year in college when she said her confidence was shattered during a church trip.

Purging only lowered her self-esteem as a vocal performance major, Jones said, since she knew just how unhealthy her habits were. That didn’t stop her from continuing those habits though. Jones said once again, her situation escalated to a life-threatening level.

It wasn’t until Jones found herself about to commit suicide by jumping out of window on the top floor of Ridenbaugh Hall that she realized she needed to get professional help. Jones took last semester off to put herself into a treatment center out of state.

Now, Jones said she is in a much better place, though she still faces challenges with her body image regularly.

“The mind is a powerful thing,” Jones said. “It can make you think the darkest thoughts and hate yourself.”

Both Falzon and Jones attributed a low self-esteem as the root cause of their body image struggles. Jones said her addiction to weight loss stemmed from her lack of friends in high school. Even though she said physical appearance wasn’t such a big deal at her school, she still convinced herself that being skinnier would lead to rising popularity. In reality, she said it only made her more of an outcast, but by that point her obsession had taken over her life.

Licensed psychologist Jamie Derrick said there are some other roots to body image issues as well. Along with cultural messages, Derrick said family influence can often lead to people having more negative thoughts about their bodies. A lot of families place an emphasis on attractiveness, even if it’s not meant to be in a mean-spirited way.

When she was 13, Jones’ father was incarcerated. She said it was devastating to her family and it definitely contributed to her developing a negative body image a year later.

Falzon’s family had a more direct role in causing her struggles. She said her parents have always made jokes about her appearance, specifically her weight. Though Falzon said her parents never realized their words were hurtful, it still got to her and led her to see her body in a negative light.

“They would give us nicknames and stuff, and it was “˜fat girl,’ “¦ “˜jelly thighs’ or “˜bubble butt,'” Falzon said.

Falzon said her parents still continue with their taunts to this day. Fortunately, Falzon said the support from her friends was monumental in her progress to where she is now. Likewise, Jones said her mother, twin sister and the friends she’s made at UI’s music department and at her sorority, Delta Zeta, have helped her view her body differently.

“I found my true friends,” Jones said.

Both Falzon and Jones said they were willing to be open about their struggles because they know so many people deal with body image issues and they hope their stories will help some individuals in similar situations.

“Everyone is beautiful,” Falzon said. “And once we start accepting ourselves, you know, things will change.”

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